Jump where pins 30 and 87 of relay would connect. I'm going through the same thing ... at least it died in the garage with 240k miles on it. When I jumped it, had voltage but did not hear a thing from the pump when I tested it.
Getting a pump from BMA for $186 ... quoted at first 199 =P Patrick BMW quoted me $161!! Which is fantastic and unbelievable ... till I found out that they didn't have it in stock and would take 3 days =( so much for that deal.
I'm not looking forward to removing the rusted nuts.
Ken