Well after all this it is fixed. a $4 4gauge battery cable that has the same size post openings as the ground strap fixed it. I checked the resistance and connections on the ground, without taking it out and flexing it. When i did that it made a sickening crunching noise, not enough wire to move the current needed. Takes a while for the OBC to show 14.1 after you go from a stop, but driving down the road it never dips below 13.7. Problem solved.. finally!Thanks to Bill G for reminding me about the "just because there is no resistance doesn't man the cable is good" principle.