I'm about to post a piccy but with regard to your photo, my car is different.
On mine, the starter relay is directly between the relays that you've marked 1 and 2 - but in your relay box that's a vacant spot without a relay!
I'm not sure how you get access to the relay - my Indy did this for me. I wonder if it's quite tricky as they basically levered up the relay socket (the socket is now loose) rather than undoing the screws etc.
P.S. It might be worth completing your profile in more detail - we can't tell what sort of car you've got.