I ended up getting the CarSoft Software, and in the help section, the cable it shows to use with it is just a straight cable between the 20 pin connector and an RS232 serial port, no translator boxes in-between.
I also found this pinout connector, so I'm thinking that at the very least, there is no way to harm the DME by giving it a try, so I'm probably going to order the cable. I'll let you know how it turns out.
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