You have to drain the ATF from the tranny and torque converter before you ship. I am sure Kirt told you this.
You need female torx socket... buy a cheap set from ebay if you got time... otherwise check with Sears Online to see who has it... highly unlikely to find this socket elsewhere unless you can find a tool truck but be prepared for super high bux if you do so.
Torque converter is bolted to flex plate so you do need to rotate engine to get to the bolts via porthole.